I like to take chances! I find it exciting, but stressful at the same time!
However, I often have to remind myself that it’s a choice that I’m making ot take the chance.
Sometimes the chances work out and sometimes they do not. And my practice is to recognize that when a chance does not work out that it was a choice I made to take the chance.
I find myself talking through some of the chances I take that are challenging. If you were a fly on the wall I’m sure you would think “Wow…Other people think this way too”!
I talk to myself out loud and say things like “I’m afraid. Why am I afraid? Is my ego getting in the way? Am I listening closely to an inner voice of the past? (The I can’t Voice) Why can’t I let this go? Wait. I can let this go! I can do this! I need to acknowledge I’m afraid! Do it scared! I want this! Make it happen!”
It’s a progression. I first acknowledge that I am afraid. That I’m putting myself out there and it’s scary to do that.
I then practice reminding myself that some chances I take may not work out and I’ll be disappointed and sad, or I’ll take rejection personally and get a little depressed. And I remind myself this is a normal response to disappointment.
On the flip side, I may have a great outcome to a chance taken and I’ll think “Thank Goodness I Took That Chance!” I’ll be proud of myself for putting myself out there. And I remind myself this too is a normal response to success.
I just need to be careful of my ego beating me up too much or patting me on the back too much.
It’s all a gamble, it’s all a series of choices. The challenge is to be aware of what is happening in any given moment.
This is life.
Be in it! Life it! Chance it!
It’s worth it!
